what doo you do when well meaning members say things that hurt
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Permalink Reply by Sydni Lyn Pasley on -
Sometimes it is really difficult to not get upset or mad about what other members say. I think you just have to remember that they have good intentions and that the church is not always about "the people." So don't make an excuse to let it bother you, just let it go.
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Permalink Reply by Gwen Rowley on -
I am learning after many years not to let it bother me it,s just that people have always tried to make my choices for me and it,s been a struggle than just bfore Christmas I met a true angel and she,s been able to help me with taking my power bacl
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Permalink Reply by Lety Banks on -
Listen, ladies, there are always going to be things said that hurt; fact of life, so let's start there. If you recognize a hurtful statement as well-meaning, why don't stop it immediately. A well-meaning person won't mind being told that the comment is not helpful.
And no, not all comments from dear Church members are well-meaning. Some just aren't, but shouldn't our sisterhood allow us the opportunity to kindly said so?
One more thing: can we apply to ignorance what can be applied to malice?
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Permalink Reply by Jennie Lee Jenkins on -
https://lds.org/ensign/2010/11/never-leave-him?lang=eng
You should definitely click on the link read this talk. It will help you understand how important it is to let things go. Getting offended only will hurt oneself.
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Permalink Reply by Amber Thibeau on -
Many times church members will inadvertently say something "hurtful". Sometimes I try not to take it personally. I have to do this often because even though my husband is a member he is, for the most part, inactive. I have to be sensitive to him while honoring my Heavenly Father. I often find myself being upset about things I have learned, something that someone said either directly or indirectly to me or even meetings with my Bishop. What I tell myself is...as long as I am doing everything I can to the best of my abilities to live a pleasing life for Him, then what someone says really in the spectrum of this life...it just doesn't matter. I hope this helps you <3
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Permalink Reply by Maria Melendez on
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The comments that I have read about letting go was helpful to me. Because I am struggling with forgiveness. Especially coming from the members from my church. My situation is that I have two very sick children and they are not living with me,they live three states away and they live with their father. I always talk about my sick children to lots of members from my ward and some members does complain that I am always talking about my sick children. And when these members complain about me just because I am talking a lot about my sick children it really hurts me a whole lot.
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Permalink Reply by Jeanine Hamilton-Sayle on
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you have got to remember we are all imperfect and striving to be perfect, one of the commandments is love thy neighbour as thy self. I know this is hard sometimes because of their imperfections, but i'm sure with prayer you will find the strength and the answer you need from heavenly father. Think of the opposition using people to get at you, it gets harder especially if your doing everything right.
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Permalink Reply by Sarah MacDonald on
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I think you all have given such great answers to this difficult topic. We all really don't want to offend anyone or to be either the offender or the recipient of hurtful words. We are all here to learn and grow hopefully we all can grow from situaions such as these and not take it to heart and move forward with a steadfastness in Christ. Let hurtful things go, you will be much stronger and healthier for it.
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